Hey, It’s Okay… To Be Single

Hi everyone. I always knew when I came up with the idea for this series that February’s post would centre around love and being single because of Valentine’s Day and me being timely and all that. I have been single my whole life so I am pretty good at it! This post is purely me sharing my thoughts and experiences in and around love.

Love is a word with many meanings and each person has a different concept of what love is and what love should be like. Love is a strong feeling of affection, love is a great interest or pleasure in something, love is being attracted to somebody else. Those are just three different meanings of ‘love’ and yet they are all different but still evoke the same emotions of happiness, content and belonging.

Like every little girl, I dream of meeting my prince and falling in love. I know the path to love may not always be easy but I never want to lose sight of the fact that it will be worth it. I’ve never had a relationship before and I’ve seen friends meet people and it feels like they’re moving forward and you’re just stuck. Of course you’re happy for your friends but a little part of you thinks, “why not me?” I know from experience it can be hard to take yourself out of this mindset and it can set off a spiral of negative thinking. Many a time I’d convinced myself no guy would ever want to be with me or could possibly find me attractive. Then I thought, is that really all I want? Is having a guy find me attractive the most important thing? Truthfully, I am still learning to get over these feelings but I have come a long way. The growth in my self-confidence and the belief my little quirks can be beautiful, my thoughts can inspire and I can make someone smile really help. I’ve always thought of beauty in other people as more than physical, so why wouldn’t everyone else?

In some ways it might be easier never having had a relationship because when you finally do get one, it will feel all the more special. You don’t have any preconceived notions on what it is going to be like and you can go into it with a fresh set of eyes and enjoy learning about that person and getting to know them. For a worry wart like me, you’d think it would scare me not knowing how something is going to turn out but that’s part of the beauty of love, it should be spontaneous and make you feel things you didn’t know you could feel.

I think when you are single and might not have been in a relationship or don’t have a lot of relationship experience it teaches you a lot about yourself. Single life teaches you how to be independent, how to enjoy your own company and how to make yourself happy. Another thing being single has taught me is the person I want to be when I am in a relationship. I know for a fact I am one of the kindest, sweetest, most thoughtful people and I am also pretty funny and love to make people laugh. (Not writing for a singles column I swear!) I am finally getting to the point where I am confident enough to be myself and not be afraid to share my passions and interests with another person. I never want love to feel like a chore or be difficult. Call me romantic or deluded but I believe one day I will find everything I’m looking for… he just hasn’t found me yet!

This particular Hey, It’s Okay… is very personal and close to my heart (pardon the pun) but it felt good to get these feelings out and share them with you. I hope you enjoyed this post and thanks for reading!