Dear 15 Year Old Me

Back in July the lovely Jennie nominated me to do the ‘Dear 15 Year Old Me’ tag. The idea is you think of an answer for each of the five prompts that your 15 year old self would appreciate and give advice you wish you had heard when you were younger. The tag was originally started by Everyday Magic With Jubilee and Mom Life With Chiari.

Rules:

  • Post the tag and image above
  • Mention the creators of the tag and link back to their blog
  • Thank whoever nominated you and link back to their blog
  • Nominate 5 other bloggers that you love and notify them by commenting on their latest post

1. Don’t be hard on yourself because…

You’re your own biggest critic. We are toughest on ourselves when we often don’t need that pressure. If something is not going to matter in five minutes or a month from now don’t spend time worrying and stressing about it. Those who are closest to you appreciate you for who you are.

2. The relationship you’re in…

You won’t be in relationship for a few years yet but don’t settle and worry too much, things will happen when they happen. Waiting to get into a relationship rather than forcing anything or being in a relationship for the sake of it makes you realise what you actually want and teaches you how look after yourself and treat other people. When it finally happens you will feel more grateful and it will be special.

3. You will get through this because…

You are stronger than you know! Music will always be there after a hard day too.

4. Don’t get caught up in thinking…

School life is how things will be once you have finished and left school. If you don’t feel like you fit in or you don’t enjoy each part of your day that is okay. Being independent, doing things for yourself, staying motivated and working hard will take you far.

5. These experiences will help you learn…

You are going through one of the most unpredictable times of life. Feelings change constantly, emotions are high and you’re still discovering and learning about yourself. Have hope that everything will work out how it’s supposed to. Take time, enjoy the small things, be kind to yourself and keep going.

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What advice would you give your 15 year old self?

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Makeup For Glasses Wearers

I have worn glasses since I was five years old and I am so used to them that I don’t like people seeing me without glasses on. They are like a security blanket and I feel vulnerable and naked when I’m not wearing them. I prefer glasses to contacts for this reason and also because I don’t like the thought of sticking my fingers in my eyes. In all the time I’ve worn glasses they have gone from geek to chic and are now considered cool. Glasses can be an extension of a person’s style or they can be worn purely for aesthetics.

I currently have two pairs of glasses (one black and one light purple) and funnily enough every past pair of glasses I’ve had have been purple. Purple seems to suit my fair skin and hair colour and it just works. I tend to go for metallic, metal frames and violet, indigo hues. I had been thinking about getting black frames for a while because I wanted to be bolder and they go with everything. My black glasses are slightly heaver than my purple ones but I do get even amounts of wear out of both (it may not look like it from Instagram but I do!)

I always like to make an effort to do my face nicely for work and when I go out. I came up with  some tips I stick to when it comes to applying makeup, which you might find useful if you also wear glasses.

#1. Think About Your Frames

Colour, whether they’re metal or plastic, shape of lenses, how big the lenses are and most importantly the style of makeup you’re going for. If you don’t wear a lot of makeup you’ll have an easy decision but I like my glasses to work with my makeup not be the main attraction. For example, if you’ve got gold metallic frames, you could pull that metallic shimmer into an eye look by applying a gold shadow and pairing it with a red lip.

When I wear my black frames I either pair them with a shimmery, neutral eye look and bold lip or a dark, smoky eye and a lighter, glossy looking lip colour to balance everything out. With my purple frames I can’t go too light with lipstick or eyeshadow otherwise I look washed out. I love to play up the purple and bold lips and colourful eyes actually work together with these frames because they’re a neutral shade of purple.

#2. Really Get To Know Your Face and Features

Since I started my admin role towards the end of 2018 I have been doing my makeup at 6am nearly every morning so I don’t have natural light on my side and I rely on my bedroom light. I don’t wear glasses when I apply makeup or use a magnifying mirror because I am so used to my facial features and the products I wear. I know how much to apply out of practice and instinct.

#3. Decide Whether You Want Eyes or Lips To Be the Focus

Unless there’s an occasion or I’m doing a themed look I will pick either eyes or lips to be the focus. It’s all about balance and streamlining what you want to draw attention to. I usually go lighter/neutral on the eyes and bolder on the lips but that’s just personal preference. Depending on your frames, colour on the lips and eyes can work – there’s no hard and fast rule.

#4. Go Lighter With Your Brows

If you have dark, thick frames you don’t want it to look like your eyebrows have been drawn on with a Sharpie. Natural brows look less harsh and will help to break up the different areas of your face and make your glasses stand out more. If you have lighter coloured frames don’t over compensate by making your brows darker, this will only make them stand out more and make the frames look more stark.

#5. Don’t Feel Obliged To Wear Eyeliner

Again, if you have dark frames thick liner will draw attention to the eye area. If eyeliner is a must try going for a brown or a thin line to give the eyes shape. I don’t wear eyeliner, I personally don’t feel I need it. I also can’t apply it to save to my life!

#6. Don’t Put Glasses On Straight After Applying Mascara

Don’t make mascara the last product you apply and put your glasses on straight after, chances are you will get little streaks down your lenses and have to take your glasses off again to clean them. My advice is to leave the blush/highlighter/setting spray step of your routine until after you’ve applied mascara to give it that extra minute or so to dry. You can thank me later!

#7. Setting Spray/Setting Powder Is Your Friend

Don’t forget this step if you often find smudges on your glasses throughout the day from makeup. Powder around the nose where nose pads sit, near the brows and under the eyes where the rims of frames can touch your skin if they sit close to your face. Being a dry skinned gal I tend to reach for setting spray more than powder but both products do the trick.


Let me know if you enjoyed this post! Do you have any tips of your own to share?

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Tips For Staying Safe On Tinder

Hi, my name’s Chanelle and I use Tinder. People will make jokes about others who use it and yes at one point I was embarrassed to admit I use it for that reason but I’m not ashamed to say I’ve put myself out there and would like to meet someone new.

Honestly, I’ve never gone into using Tinder with expectations and whether or not a friendship or relationship comes from it, I don’t mind either way. I use it simply because the world has become so digital. As well as potentially looking to meet someone day to day, it’s not doing any harm looking online too.

I’ve talked briefly before about not wanting to use Tinder for casual hookups (there are people who do use it for that, which is fine – I’m not going to shame somebody for wanting a bit of fun) but I’m the type of girl who prefers to be exclusive and focus on giving my all to one person. I also think using the app makes me feel more confident and I’m not afraid to message guys first and initiate conversation. Dating is surprisingly one thing that I don’t stress about a lot, I’ve got quite a relaxed attitude towards it. The dates I’ve been on have never ended with animosity or made me feel like I was in danger – they just haven’t worked out and that’s okay.

I’m lucky that the dates I have been on have always made me feel safe and I don’t associate negative feelings with meeting a guy for the first time. There are horror stories out there, not everyone is trustworthy and things do go wrong but if you take precautions to keep yourself safe the positive experiences outweigh the negative ones. I like to think I’m a sensible girl and I make logical decisions. I wanted to impart some of my Tinder dating wisdom to ensure other people like me who are looking to meet someone genuine do stay safe.

TIps:

Tip #1: Don’t Meet Straight Away (I.E. the day of the first message)

You’ll know by having a few conversations with a person over the course of a week or two whether you do actually want to meet them. You’re able to ask questions and gauge their responses and if they disappear for days on end or different things they say don’t add up you haven’t rushed into meeting them. If someone really wants to meet you they won’t mind waiting until you’re both ready.

Tip #2: Don’t Reveal Personal details on your profile

I don’t share the location of where I work or any links to social media on my Tinder profile. If I’m messaging someone and they ask what I do for work I will say but it relates to Tip #1, you’re able to gauge the conversation and decide who you let know where you work. Workplaces are an obvious location for stalking to start and for people you haven’t matched with to be able to see that information makes you more readily available to them.

There is an option to link your Instagram account so Tinder can show recent photos but I don’t want my pictures getting taken and I don’t want everyone to follow me on Instagram. Instagram usernames aren’t included on Tinder profiles and if I’m talking to someone, we get along and Instagram comes up as a topic, I can decide whether to give it out or not.

Tip #3: Always Let Someone KNOW if YOU Plan To MEET up With a Tinder Match

THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PIECE OF ADVICE I want you to take from this post! Every date I have ever been on my mum has known about. It doesn’t have to be a parent but telling a friend, family member or a co-worker where you’re going ensures if anything goes wrong they have an idea where you are or where you’ve been.

Tip #4: Meet In a Public Place

I don’t like to meet someone for the first time in a secluded area or a quiet part of town where no one is around. Usually I will be the one to suggest where to meet and generally always pick somewhere to eat where there’s guaranteed to be other people and witnesses around. I haven’t had to do this but if you’re in a cafe or restaurant and you do feel unsafe you can make an excuse to head up to the counter and let a staff member know what’s going on. You could even arrange with a friend before the date to casually ‘bump into them’ where you’re meeting so they know you’re okay and help you get out of the situation if you don’t feel right about it.

Tip #5: Arrange Your Own Transportation

I have been offered to be picked up on dates before but I have never accepted for the simple fact of getting into a car with a stranger. If you make your own way there via bus or driving yourself and the date doesn’t turn up you know the person’s intentions weren’t true and you are still safe and you can turn around and go home. I have let a few dates drop me home as I’ve spent a couple of hours with them to know I don’t feel uneasy in their presence. My mum always offers to pick me up or tells me to call her if I need anything and I know I can rely on her.

Tip #6: You Don’t Have To Give Out Your Phone Number

This relates to Tip #2 – if you don’t feel comfortable giving someone your phone number, don’t! If someone tries to question you, be honest and upfront and explain you only give out your number to close friends and family members. If someone wants to keep talking and getting to know you, it won’t matter and they won’t make you feel guilty. In time you can decide to change your mind.


I hope you found this post interesting! There are plenty of other safety tips out there like carrying a whistle or pepper spray or downloading an app that tracks the location of your phone so friends and family can see where you are. The ones I talked about are personally things I do and I would love to know if you have any tips of your own – leave them in the comments!

Happy dating!

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Inside My Blog Planner

Inside My Blog Planner!It’s crazy to think when I first started my blog two years ago I had absolutely no posting schedule whatsoever and would write posts as and when I felt like it. I started getting into a regular schedule in May 2015 after starting my job and knowing I wasn’t going to have as much free time as I previously did. I made the choice to post three times a week, Monday, Wednesday and Friday as I find my blog is busier during the week and it means I can use weekends to construct posts for the coming week.

It wasn’t until late last year I thought I need some way to keep track of what I’m posting and when so I don’t get confused and ramble on about something that’s already been posted on the blog… twice. I came up with the idea to use an Excel spreadsheet as when I’m typing it’s always handy to have a calendar near for dates and future reference.

Excel Blog Schedule

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I start off by heading up each month and highlighting it blue then I have two columns: one for the publishing date and another for the title of the post. Once the post has been published I highlight that cell red as you can see in the image above. I find this system really helps you see everything at a glance and it’s surprising how quickly each month fills up! Seeing the dates in a list also makes you more aware of holidays and breaks or time away and how you can fit posts in around those.

Over the past couple of weeks I also decided it would be useful to have a handwritten copy of my blog schedule in case something happens to my laptop and I can’t get to it. I have turned an A4 notebook into a blog planner and use one page as one week. I chose my ‘Nice Melons’ notebook from Typo because the cover always makes me laugh and insinuates something a bit cheeky which is actually the reason I bought it!

Complete Week in Blog PlannerUsing strips of washi tape I divide the page into three sections (one for each post) and begin to fill them in. I head up with the date and each of my posting days in an assigned colour. I then jot down the title of each post and write a mini checklist of the key things I need to do before the post is published e.g. take photographs of certain items or schedule the post. I draw a little box beside each task and once it is complete it gets marked off. I have also included a place to record my weekly number of views so I can monitor the traffic of my blog and see which posts readers liked and were popular. At the back of the notebook I plan to create a list of potential post ideas which I can add to and cross off from as needed.

Blog Planner KeyMy blog planner key so I don’t forget what each colour is for.

So, there you have it, an insight into my blog planner! If you’d like me to go over or clarify anything don’t hesitate to ask. I enjoy posts like this as they inspire you and give you ideas to adapt and come up with your own system. If you think my system is easy to understand and you’d like to implement any part of it, go ahead! I’d love to know if this post helped you and how you plan your blog posts.

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21 Things I’ve Learnt In 21 Years

Hi everyone! It’s officially two days until my birthday, can I get a whoop whoop! Before you read about my makeup menu, outfit and everything else on Monday I’ve got some words of wisdom I wanted to share with you before turning the big 2-1. It doesn’t matter how old you are you never stop learning and sometimes life teaches you lessons, good and bad. These snippets of advice are just some of the many things I’ve learnt over the past 21 years and I hope you find them comforting.

  1. Always trust your gut instinct. I apply this a lot in everyday life; whether it’s deciding on a lipstick colour to wear that day or making practical life changing decisions like what subjects to pick at school or what to study at uni.
  2. If something doesn’t feel right don’t do it. Similar to the point above, if you’re not happy and don’t feel comfortable in a situation you don’t have to go through with anything.
  3. Don’t give in to peer pressure. It might seem cool at the time to be like everybody else but make decisions that benefit you not other people.
  4. 9 times out of 10 your mum is always right.
  5. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.
  6. Your differences are what make you special, learn to embrace them.
  7. It’s OK to be sad from time to time.
  8. Happiness is the most important thing.
  9. People may not always be there for you when you need them. I hope you find people that are.
  10. Laughter is the best medicine!
  11. Watching re-runs of F.R.I.E.N.D.S whenever they’re on despite having seen each episode hundreds of times is totally acceptable.
  12. A smile is the best accessory you can wear.
  13. Short girls are the best 😛
  14. Drink water and lots of it!
  15. Always be kind. Kindness doesn’t cost a thing and who knows, you could make someone’s day.
  16. The world would be a horrible place without music.
  17. School days aren’t necessarily the best of your life.
  18. Expectation is the root of disappointment.
  19. Animals are some of the best friends you can have.
  20. Try not to let fear stand in your way of anything.
  21. Life is a roller coaster for everybody, it’s full of ups and downs. There will be times you may feel lost and full of despair but never give up hope that one day all of your dreams will come true!

Let me know what you think of my list and what you’ve learnt throughout your life.

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