Hey, It’s Okay… To Be Teetotal

Hey It's OkayHello and welcome to the first post in my new blogging series Hey, It’s Okay…!

This month’s topic is teetotalism and for those of you who aren’t sure what that is, it means I don’t drink alcohol. I want to point out that not drinking is a personal choice and I don’t have any problems with people who do.

I felt teetotalism was appropriate for this time of year as many people enjoy a drink around Christmas and New Year. As well as that, I have my 21st birthday coming up and I’m not one for having a party and getting off my face. I’m not a judgmental person and I don’t care if getting drunk is your idea of fun, just please don’t judge me when I say it’s not mine. One thing I have noticed is that people who drink are more conscious of people who don’t and I always thought it would be the other way round; people not drinking would be more conscious of those who do. I am proud to say I have never been pressured into drinking alcohol by those around me and they accept my decision not to drink.

So, I guess you’re wondering how I came to make such an important lifestyle decision? There are a few simple reasons but there was also one main influence: my dad. I don’t speak about my dad a lot because we don’t get on. He left when I was four years old because alcohol and gambling was more important than his family. My dad wouldn’t just have a beer or two with dinner or go out to the pub once in a while, he’d be drinking most of the night and most of the day at weekends; basically whenever he could. My brother and I would stay with him every second weekend and most of that time we’d be at the pub. Growing up with that and seeing what it does to a person is actually really scary. There were times he wouldn’t remember things you’d told him or know how old you were turning on your birthday. I have this fear that alcohol takes away your control and I wouldn’t like to feel I’m out of control, I’m quite obsessive like that. Another reason I don’t drink is the fact I don’t even know what alcohol tastes like* and it can be bloody expensive! I’d much rather put the money towards a new outfit or new lippy. My mum doesn’t drink and my brother rarely does so it’s not a big part of everyday life. I also suffer from migraine headaches and I’d be worried alcohol would aggravate them.

*I am partial to a shandy though (beer mixed with lemonade).

There are also some pretty neat benefits about not being a drinker:

  • You’ll feel healthier.
  • You’ll be richer – who doesn’t want more money?!?!
  • You’ll sleep better (apparently).
  • You’ll have total clarity, you won’t wake up foggy or hungover and be trying to remember what happened the night before.

Teetotalism is something I feel strongly about but it’s totally cool if you think everything I mentioned was complete and utter garbage! These are simply thoughts and observations I have surrounding the topic of alcohol. If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask.

I hope you enjoyed the first post of this new series. The point of these posts is to introduce more personality and feeling into my blog. If you have any ideas you’d like to see turned into a Hey, It’s Okay… post, feel free to share them in the comments below. Thanks for reading!


Disclaimer: All opinions are entirely my own and I don’t wish to try and influence anyone. I want you to enjoy these posts and get a snippet inside my head as to some of the “issues” I face and reasons for doing the things I do.

11 thoughts on “Hey, It’s Okay… To Be Teetotal

  1. theworldofcos says:

    It is your life & your decision! πŸ‘ I don’t think you are missing out on much. I rarely drink myself unless it is a special occasion & not too much even then. You can have fun with or without drinks! Have a great week & thanks for sharing!

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  2. adeleinglasses says:

    Good job Chanelle, I can already see that this new blog series is going to shape up to be a really interesting one, especially because we’re learning things about you that we didn’t already! I have always been very strong-minded in that if I don’t want to do something then I won’t do it, even if peer pressure is present, so I barely ever drink alcohol either. It’s more of a preference thing for me, if I don’t particularly ‘like’ it then I won’t have it. Having witnessed the effects of being drunk, I don’t think that I’d personally like the lack of control either… or the next day. πŸ™‚

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    • Chanelle says:

      Thank you Adele, I can’t wait to share more posts in the series. They allow me to be searingly honest and share experiences to try and help others which I enjoy πŸ™‚ I’m with you on the peer pressure thing, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to just to please everyone else. I’m proud of the fact I’m strong minded and make decisions for myself.

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  3. Kaily says:

    Wow, I didn’t know that about your dad. It must have been so hard and so time consuming trying to understand why he would act that way and why he couldn’t put his family first. My dad wasn’t a heavy drinker but he left when I was 13 and literally told me mom he wasn’t coming back because he had too much to lose (as in he didn’t want to pay child support). It took many years before I understood that he loved his lifestyle more than he loved us AND MORE SO that I was okay with that. For me, drinking isn’t a big part of my life because of clarity, like you say. I’m a mom, a full time worker, a student. I’m many more things of course, we all are, but I have too much in my life that I need to maintain clarity for. Every once in awhile my hubby and I might go out and get a drink when my son is at his Grandma’s house (not now that I’m pregnant again of course) just to feel a little lose but it’s not worth it. I drank a lot more when I was younger with friends (house parties) but even then you have to be careful because there are so many dirt bags out there who will take advantage of you or slip something in your drink. So good for you for prioritizing your clarity! And I agree, I’d rather have a new lipstick than a drink πŸ™‚

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    • Chanelle says:

      Call me cruel but I think my life is better without him. As I said in the post, I have no problem with people who drink, it’s just not something that fits into my lifestyle and interests. Thanks for your lovely, long comment πŸ™‚

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      • Kaily says:

        Nope, not cruel at all. The fact that you recognize you’re better off without him is rare. Many kids blame themselves and feel worthless for YEARSSS when really it’s not their fault. Good for you!

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