#TakeBackWhatsYours Campaign

Hello there beautiful people,

I only read about this campaign recently and I have been invited by Beck of BeckInABlog to join the campaign and take part. The #TakeBackWhatsYours concept was developed by Chloe over at http://www.chloesconcept.blogspot.co.uk/ who sees this campaign not only as a New Year’s Resolution but as a lifelong commitment and a way to inspire positivity among everyone – not just bloggers.

“This is a lifelong commitment, if you want to change the way you feel about yourself, or you want to act upon the message of this campaign and ‘Take Back What’s Yours‘, when better to do that than the start of a new year… This is not one of those “New Year, New Me” unrealistic resolutions. When I say “New Year, New You”, I genuinely mean it.

To get involved and take part:

  • Write a blog post talking about this campaign, the message it contains and why you are taking part
  • What Take Back What’s Yours – New Year Resolution you are going to set yourself
  • Tag 10 bloggers to take part
  • Let me know if you’re taking part by using the hashtag on Twitter #TakeBackWhatsYours – Also tag either @ChloesConcept or @TBWYCampaign so I can retweet!!
  • If you can – include a photo of yourself with a handmade poster (doesn’t have to be artistic!) with the words:

In 2015, I’m taking back: *i.e., “my confidence” 

Why I’m taking part:

Initially when I saw I had been tagged to take part I didn’t think I could come up with anything to take back and it wouldn’t warrant a post but I didn’t want to turn down this opportunity and upon reflection I’ve come up with something.

One of my biggest issues is the fear of not being good enough and it gets to the stage where I’m afraid to do anything. Some days I’m scared of walking out the door, I’m scared to talk on the telephone, I’m scared of social interaction and it hinders my everyday life. For a number of years I haven’t had a lot of friends, I rarely leave the house and it doesn’t take much to get me down.

I think a huge part of this is to do with my dad leaving when I was 4 years old. I’ve always got this thought in the back of my mind saying, “You weren’t good enough for him so how will you be good enough for anyone else.” Alongside the fear of not being good enough you feel you have to please other people in order to make yourself feel better and compromising your feelings for the sake of others is never the way to go. It’s emotionally draining and it doesn’t get you anywhere.

Like a lot of people, I suffer with low self-esteem and confidence and constantly question everything I do (even this blog post). Fear is such a prominent emotion in me and I don’t want to spend all my time afraid to live life because of it.

It would be very easy for me to say I’m taking back confidence, or I’m taking back happiness but that would be too simple. I know deep down my confidence has grown from what it used to be and I truly believe confidence brings happiness and vice versa.

I’ve decided to take back something which encompasses everything I’ve talked about in this post (happiness, confidence, fear) and I’ve decided to take back my strength. I want to feel content with the choices I make instead of second-guessing myself, I want to look after my needs and treat myself with respect and most importantly I need to keep the determination inside myself alive and trust that everything will work out.

TakeBackWhatsYoursI’m not going to tag 10 individual bloggers because this is truly an amazing concept and the more people that take part the better!

Chanelle x

20 thoughts on “#TakeBackWhatsYours Campaign

  1. plus+beauty27 says:

    Thanks for sharing your story! I can relate a lot to what you have wrote here. I was tagged by Becca from Beck in a Blog and can’t wait to do this! 🙂 xo

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  2. beckinablog says:

    Thanks so much for doing this! I know it’s scary hitting the ‘publish’ button on a post like this – I felt the same way and I edited it a million times – but by doing this I think we’ve already begun taking back our confidence, our self-belief and our strength. That’s the beauty of this campaign!
    I know how you feel, I’ve been there myself. But we’ll make 2015 our year. It would be silly to say we’ll become a completely different person over night, and we don’t need to be, but every little step is an achievement. 2015 will be a year of positivity! ❤
    Best of luck to you, gorgeous lady. And I, and all of us, are always here to talk if you need it! xx

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  3. Nadine says:

    This really is such a wonderful campaign. I think it makes others feel like they can open up when reading it and sort of gain strength from each other. I also experience the fear of not being good enough quite often. I don’t know if it has anything to do with me also not having a father figure in my life or if I am just afraid of people judging me for not being able to do something but either way, I experience very similar emotions to you in that regard. I have since taught myself to think about all the reasons my father isn’t in my life and that makes me think that it’s not me who isn’t good enough for that relationship to be there, it’s him who doesn’t deserve to be part of my life. Maybe it would help you to think of it that way.
    I know that it is by no means easy but I wish you the best of luck achieving your goal! You are such a strong woman already for sharing that. 🙂

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    • Chanelle says:

      Thank you for reading and I’m sorry to hear you feel the same sometimes. It’s amazing how it can take speaking out to realise how similar people are or what exactly they go through. Good point about the father issue, in fact I quite often feel like he’s the one missing out yet I still feel guilty over it. Crazy! Once again thank you for your kind words ❤

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      • Nadine says:

        Yes, it can often be quite surprising because it is easy to feel like you are the only one in that situation. Although each situation is unique, there is comfort to be found in the similarities.
        The guilt is only human but I know how it can be consuming at times and it’s sometimes difficult to pin-point exactly why we feel like we do about someone who hasn’t been there for us. I don’t know if I am making any sense.
        You are so welcome! You can feel free to contact me if you ever need someone to listen. 🙂 ❤


  4. coffeennotes says:

    Thanks for sharing, I can relate a lot to what you have wrote. have the same fear of not being good enough and in most of the times (sadly) it sopped me from accomplishing what I wanted. It’s a wonderful post and I love to know your story better and I love this campaign ❤

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